3 Oct 2016

What You Don't See

I hate doing posts, before I have caught up on emails, blogs, and comments but I have had this one on my mind for awhile.

I was watching a youtube video by NerdWriter1  about Casey Niestat a talented video blogger. It was talking about the art of editing and how when it's done well you don't even notice that it's been done, it's seamless.

This applies to far more than just YouTube to me, it applies to the internet as a whole. It's something we all forget about, we take things at face value. The perfectly edited and shot pictures on Instagram, the cute planned and rewritten blog posts, that have been been made with the purpose of being seen.

I'm guilty of this myself, all the pictures I post on here are carefully selected and edited to be the best they can be. Yet for every good picture I take, there are at least fifty bad ones. We have all gotten so good at hiding the rough parts from the world, editing our lives to be aesthetically pleasing

Most of what we see on a daily basis is a snapshot at best. A heavily edited one at that, an almost  artificial version. It's incredibly hard to be genuine online and off. Especially in a society that praises perfection as unattainable and manufactured as it is. We buy it anyway, I know I do. I rate myself by it, and think that if I just raise the bar a little higher I will make it. The thing I am trying to reach doesn't exist. This self imposed perfection, is wasting my time and wreaking havoc on what was left of my self esteem.

There is beauty in our imperfections. We need to start embracing them.





26 comments:

  1. AMEN! Not that we should go around and purposefully not do our best, but we need to remember that our best is what we need to strive for. We don't need to beat ourselves up when we fail perfection, especially since it's an unfair expectation.

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    1. :D Yes, we can try, and always do your best. We just need to embrace failure.
      Thanks for reading!

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  2. THIS. Your words, Skye!!! You always bring out such beautiful truths, truths the rest of us aren't brave enough to voice. You're are a blessing to this world! <3

    You put this all so beautifully. We DO tend to "edit" our lives, only show the pretty parts. But we're all human, we all have imperfections. And through them we can encourage one another. We shouldn't always pretend our lives are perfect and we have everything going on. It's through our mistakes that we learn and can support one another. If we perceive everyone else as being perfect, then of course we're going to have self esteem problems.

    Thank you for being REAL, Skye. You are such an inspiration! <3

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    1. Omigoodness Christine! Thanks, I don't deserve that! <3

      Eeep! I really a starting to hate the plastic,fake society we are all creating. It's sad. I like seeing people as they are and sharing our problems and struggles. Exactly, we aren't supposed to be perfect.

      <3 I try, Thanks for your lovely comments!

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  3. GIRRRLLLLLLL..... Yes, just, SO much yes! I realize that there are times when I worry more about the state of my Instagram feed than I worry about the state of my soul. And that should never happen. Keep up your lovely and eye-opening work, Skye, your blog is a pleasure to read. (-:

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    1. Your comment gave me the biggest smile! I am guilty of doing the same thing.
      Thanks, that means a lot!
      <3

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  4. ABSOLUTELY YES! Although I always find myself analysing how people show their artwork because I know I only show the best things, so I always figure other people are doing the same. But imperfections are totally fine and nothing to be ashamed of. 🎉

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    1. Glad you agree! I always think that, because I do it all the time, I can't be the only one. Thanks for commenting Cait!

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  5. We were just talking about this over the weekend. Social media can unfortunately be a platform for a fake life, when the truth is sometimes life is simply messy and real.

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    1. It's something I try to remember a lot because it's really easy to forget.

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  6. YES! Making mistakes and messes is a part of humanity. Sure, we should strive for excellence, but we will never "make it." Everyone likes to put on this false persona of having it all together. One of perfection and symmetry and, um, no. Sometimes messes are beautiful too (more so, if you're asking me). It's realistic, it's life.

    At the writing lab, everyone who works there lives in fear making a grammar mistake or missing an error on someone's essay (I do understand the latter more though; because someone else is relying on you to help them with their grade :/ ). And when someone does mess up, everyone just looks down on them like they're an awful person for not catching that error, or for misplacing or forgetting a mere comma (some would be horrified that I said "mere" comma). So we live in even higher dread because if we mess up our credibility goes down in the eyes of our colleagues and it's so absurd. We're all human and, hey, humans mess up. We need to cut each other some slack (some of us do, but, eh. . . not most). I have a difficult time not falling for this too. Especially when I'm in such an environment. Anyhow, I totally agree! And I love, love this post. :)

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    1. PS I found out that there's a Mad Hatter Day! It's Oct. 6th, aka tomorrow. Just thought you'd find that interesting. ;)

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    2. This comment though, omigoodness! I love your feedback. I am going to try to be more genuine in all the areas of my life. I want people to be inspired not intimidated.

      I would really hate that kind of environment, I will pray for you. :)

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    3. The Hatter day thing, that is so cool. How did I not know about it! Thanks for telling me.

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  7. YESS I love this reminder so much! It's so easy to compare and say, "ugh, they're so perfect at everything," but that's usually not the case. I would have to add that we shouldn't be completely raw -- it's good to edit your posts until they're acceptable for other people to read and keep taking pictures until they're not quite so grainy, but you have such a good reminder. :D

    // katie grace
    a writer's faith

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    1. Thanks! I know I do that so much. I agree completely, editing is a good thing, a necessary thing. I just meant that we need to be vulnerable sometimes and open about our mistakes, but it's definitely good to edit our work. :D

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  8. YES! I have been thinking about this a lot recently. Obviously there's nothing wrong with our art being the best we can make it, but online we're in massive danger of portraying a false self. I hope I don't do that in the blogosphere, but on Facebook and stuff it's a big thing. Love this post <3

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    1. It's something that has been bothering me so much. I am really worried about it myself too! I always want to be real, but I also don't want people to see my jagged edges. I find you very real on your blog, it's one of my favorites.
      Thank you! <3

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  9. Such a lovely post! I know I edit my posts a ton before they go live, and it can be easy to forget that others have to do the same. The posts don't come out perfect the first time, and for each pretty picture there are a bucketload of discards that just didn't make it. And that's okay, because it's how the creative process works. :)


    Alexa
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    1. Thank you! I don't but I do try to catch majority of the typos. Ya, it's a nice reminder.

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  10. YES YES YES YES YES YES YES. I agree with this so much. It's not easy to be just yourself and not a version of yourself in real life. And on the internet, when you can edit and select, you get to be different. It's not even a bad thing always, as long as you remember that you and everybody else aren't perfect. This is just my opinion *shrugs*
    Shar @Virtually Read

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    1. I'm glad you agree! It can be a hard thing to remember, but it's very true.
      :D

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  11. Very good words!!! Yes... we need to be careful to present truth when we use social media. It's not a place to plaster our unreal perfections. But a place to encourage and uplift and inspire and entertain.

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  12. Thank you! Yes, you summed it up perfectly!

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